Pushy Parenting

Pushy parents get a bad rap. Yes there are some parents who are terrible; they are in it for themselves and put heavy burdens on their kids that no child should have to bear — i’m not talking about those kind of parents. I’m talking about parents who simply want the best for their kids and want to see them fulfil their fullest potential.

When we define “pushy” in reference to the latter description, then it isn’t necessary a bad thing. What parent does not want the best for their kids? If they don’t then they are bad parents. And if they do then they ought to be pushy. Not just pushy but also supportive. The right level of pushiness combined with love, tenderness and understanding — that sort of environment allows children to thrive, discover and fulfil their potential. After all nobody attains their fullest potential without being pushed, guided and supported. It’s why people pay good money for personal trainers and sign up for group exercise classes and fitness bootcamps — because we realise that to achieve our fitness goals we need somebody to push us. What about life/career goals, doesn’t the same logic apply? Parents should be the best coaches and personal life trainers to their kids — pushing them to discover and capitalise on their strengths and passions. A parent who fails to do that in my book is negligent because they allow their kids to be less than what they are capable of.

Kids aren’t born with vision of who they can become and what they can achieve — it’s a parent’s job to give them that. You have to create the environment for them to dream their wildest dreams whilst suppling them with the right level of motivation and support to enable them to attain it. This in my view is the duty of every parent.