empiricism in practice

You can’t anticipate how things will work out. What will be a good idea and what won’t. For the most part you have to do your research and analysis, gain insight as much as possible and then pull the trigger on a decision. Only later will you truly know whether or not it was a good call.

For someone with perfectionistic tendencies like me that is terrifying, but it’s the truth of how life works.

The only thing you can do is learn. When you see the results of your decisions and actions you can then make more informed decisions to get you closer to the result you want.

This is effectively empiricism in practice. But it works on projects as well as life.

Don’t waste time regretting something. See it as an opportunity to improve on what you’ve done. Look at the results of what you’ve put out there and use that as a foundation for making better judgements in future.


Be More Interesting

One way to be more interesting is to be more interested.

Interesting people always have something to say.

Almost everybody is interesting but at different levels. Just as some people are richer than others, so some are more interesting than others.

But everyone can improve their level of interesting-ness.


By being interested.

This is simple input vs output logic.

If you are curious and inquisitive you can increase how interesting you are because by taking in more, you will have more to give out. To be more interesting therefore, try being more interested. Take an interest in things beyond your current interests and you’ll have more interesting things to talk about and share with other people.

This of course comes more naturally to some people but it is a skill that almost anyone can learn.

Observe your world and the world beyond your world. Be curious and stop more often to understand things. Ask questions. Explore and keep looking even after you’ve found what you’re looking for. Then you will have more to give and more interesting things to say.


Pushy Parenting

Pushy parents get a bad rap. Yes there are some parents who are terrible; they are in it for themselves and put heavy burdens on their kids that no child should have to bear — i’m not talking about those kind of parents. I’m talking about parents who simply want the best for their kids and want to see them fulfil their fullest potential.

When we define “pushy” in reference to the latter description, then it isn’t necessary a bad thing. What parent does not want the best for their kids? If they don’t then they are bad parents. And if they do then they ought to be pushy. Not just pushy but also supportive. The right level of pushiness combined with love, tenderness and understanding — that sort of environment allows children to thrive, discover and fulfil their potential. After all nobody attains their fullest potential without being pushed, guided and supported. It’s why people pay good money for personal trainers and sign up for group exercise classes and fitness bootcamps — because we realise that to achieve our fitness goals we need somebody to push us. What about life/career goals, doesn’t the same logic apply? Parents should be the best coaches and personal life trainers to their kids — pushing them to discover and capitalise on their strengths and passions. A parent who fails to do that in my book is negligent because they allow their kids to be less than what they are capable of.

Kids aren’t born with vision of who they can become and what they can achieve — it’s a parent’s job to give them that. You have to create the environment for them to dream their wildest dreams whilst suppling them with the right level of motivation and support to enable them to attain it. This in my view is the duty of every parent.